Restoring Strained Relationships

​Allowing walls to build up in relationships can hinder deeper connections. Countless factors, such as political affiliations, religion, ethnicity, and social status, can lead to differing opinions and stances. However, these differences should not be allowed to fester. For example, during the 2016 election cycle, one in six Americans broke off a close relationship, resulting in uneasy family gatherings and increased tension.

Jesus experienced divisions similar to those of today. Education, race, tribalism, and politics were deeply ingrained in society. Despite these influences, Jesus chose His 12 closest companions from adults exposed to such divisions. These companions, including Matthew the tax collector, Simon the Zealot, Andrew the religious outsider, and ill-tempered brothers James and John Zebedee, represented various ideologies. Yet, Jesus united them.

Differences among people will always exist. It is more rewarding to cultivate similarities than differences. To de-emphasize dividing factors, people should make Jesus the focus. Approaching strained relationships from the perspective of Jesus means choosing forgiveness over faultfinding and praying for those with different opinions.

Even non-Christians can find this path rewarding. While the words "I forgive" may be challenging, the power of forgiveness often becomes evident over time. Choosing forgiveness eventually brings change that can influence others.

Elliot Sands

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